Update: Sexually Frustrated

I wish I could update my blog daily. I wish I had the time. But maintaining a blog like this requires that I'm constantly reading and thinking and talking to people about sex. And while I do one of those things consistently, the other two require more time and planning than I have right now. Especially considering that the small Japanese city I'm living in, at the moment, isn't exactly bursting with sexuality. In fact, the closest thing to affection I see are passed-out business men spooning outside of karaoke after a night of heavy drinking.

I'm actually in the process of switching jobs/relocating to a bigger city, where I might be able to explore more of what Japan is about. The countryside tends to be more conservative (no surprises there), when it comes to sex. Which means sex shops are dark and dirty and relegated to basements under bland, only acceptable when already drunk, love hotels.

So in the mean time, what do I do? As I mentioned earlier, when I'm able to find the time, I read about sex. A great introduction to kink and fantasy role play for couples that I picked-up recently by Violet Blue (author, sex-educator, podcaster, sex columnist, etc.), entitled Fetish Sex: An Erotic Guide for Couples, shown here:

By the way, how sexy is this cover photo? I would have bought this book just for the cover.

She includes descriptions of the more common fetishes, and guidance on how to incorporate these fetishes into your play-time with your partner(s); with lists of props and attire, as well as example scenarios to get you started with your, or your partner's, fantasies. The book is written with the new-to-kink couple in mind, as well as for partners of fetishists who may be in need of some insight on fetish and how to go about introducing it into the relationship.

The book also does a great job of communicating the appeal of certain fetishes to people who otherwise would fail to make the erotic connection, with the aid of fetish-specific erotica between chapters. When the average person on the street hears the words "dog play" I can only imaging what must come to mind if anything. And while reading an erotic short story about it doesn't make it any less silly, it does, at the very least, add some clarity and maybe even make it sound sexy for anyone with an open mind.

So, yeah, check it out. Also, check out Violet Blue's podcast and blog (linked above).